However much you love your family, being the primary caregiver for an elderly relative can put a strain on you emotionally, financially and physically. There comes a time for every person looking after a parent or grandparent when additional care seems like the best option, but what do you do when this time comes?
Many seniors are reluctant to accept supportive care from anyone but a relative, but the older they get, the more difficult it is for them to live independently. The transition to extra care may be tricky, but there are things you can do to make it easier. Here’s what to do if you suspect your elderly relatives need extra care.
Spot the Signs
Any change in physical function or mental status could be a sign your relative needs more help at home. Other red flags include loss of interest in hobbies or activities, extreme changes in mood, difficulty with balance and mobility and forgetfulness. You should also watch your relative’s personal hygiene in case they are unable to take care of themselves, make sure their house is clean, and there is food in the fridge. If your relative’s living habits have deteriorated, it’s probably time to seek additional care.
Consider Your Options
Once you’ve identified the signs that your loved one needs extra help, it’s time to weigh up your options. Whether or not you intend for your parent or grandparent to live in a nursing home eventually, at-home care is often the first step you should take. Not only can they then relax in a comfortable and familiar environment, but it also introduces them to the idea of extra care gradually, which will ease the transition. You’ll need to consider your financial capabilities, as well as any insurance that might cover your relative’s care. Understandably, this can be a lot to consider, so it’s best to contact an expert service such as Caring People to discuss your options with a professional and receive advice on which services would be best for your relative.
Do Your Research
Before you approach your relative, make sure you’ve done your research. There are many different kinds of care available, including special programs for those suffering dementia, or companion care for anyone who needs to see a friendly face, so find what’s right for you and your relative. If a loved one has just been discharged from the hospital, you might consider transitional care to ease them back into living at home. Again, it’s important to discuss your options with a professional and consider how you will finance the care.
Talk to Your Relative
Once you’ve decided to employ extra help and you’ve chosen a care plan, it’s time to talk to your relative about the change. Be prepared for your relative to react emotionally or even unkindly to the news, particularly if he or she doesn’t feel they need help. Explain that the assistance is for you rather than them and that you’re struggling to manage everything around the house. Listen to your loved one’s fears or concerns and try to address them as best as you can.
Maggie Hammond is a retired nurse and freelance writer, exploring and writing in the U.S. in retirement. An advocate for public health and nursing qualifications, she feels passionate about raising awareness of the current strain on public health organisations.